About this blog…

“It’s my belief that history is a wheel. ‘Inconstancy is my very essence,’ says the wheel. ‘Rise up on my spokes if you like but don’t complain when you’re cast back down…. Mutability is our tragedy, but it is also our hope. The worst of times, just like the best of times, are always passing away”.’   

– Boethius, The Consolations of Philosophy

This is a blog about the things that make me happy.  Most of the things I write about will probably be very small things.  Some of them will probably seem rather materialistic and shallow.  Some of them – I hope – will be a little bit more profound.   The point is, happiness and contentment are a bit too ephemeral for my liking.  It took me until my 30s to realise that you have to work at them both.  Happiness is a mutable state (Boethius above, puts it better than me) – just as pain and sadness are.

Which is just as well, because this summer (2012), I’m scheduled to have major orthopaedic surgery.  No Olympic marathons for me!  I have a condition called hip dysplasia, which means my hip sockets are not formed properly and it is painful and difficult for me to walk.  When I found out, I thought nobody could help me.  I thought I would be in a wheelchair for life.  It is the only time in my life that I was so frustrated and angry I wanted to throw things.  But it got better – with the help of a lot of physiotherapy (up to 3 hours a day), the pain became manageable for a while.  I got a great six pack too!  Now, when I go out with a walking stick or crutches, people stare because I don’t look like someone with a disability.

Buns of Steel – Can’t Get Up Stairs

Despite appearances to the contrary though, things are getting worse.  It’s painful to walk, painful to sit, painful to lie down.  I’m tired all the time, and then I feel guilty for being tired and sore and not doing enough with my family or at work.

I do not know anyone else with my condition, but I have found some blogs telling the stories of other young women who have undergone a PAO (peri-acetabular osteotomy) – or even two, just like I need.  I decided to write another blog which tells the story of the PAO alongside all the other things that make up life.  So I will tell my hip story, but I hope that most of my posts will be about other stuff.  The things that actually get me through.  The things that remind me that the worst of times are passing away.

Here’s a bit about me.  I am in my 30s and in 2009, I married my delicious husband (let’s call him Irish, which was the nickname he gave himself on the Internet Dating site where we met).  He is retired (!) due to a severe injury he sustained on military operations in 2003.  We look after each other.  I have two equally delicious (though not in the same way) stepdaughters, aged 12 and 8.   We live with a Bengal cat and five unruly chickens in The House, in an ancient village in the middle of darkest Devon, in England.  I have a full-time job, I love my job, but I don’t want to write about that.  I like to eat, and bake, and garden, and knit, and read, and wear lovely clothes and handbags.  And most of all, I like to laugh with my family, every day, as much as I can.

This blog is named after a song that makes me happy.  It’s by Anafey, it’s got a cool oldskool ‘boots-cats’ vibe to it, and like all the best things, gets better towards the end.  You can listen to it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypl59XewnDk

One more thing.  I would like this blog to be uplifting, but not smug, self-aggrandising, or self-congratulatory – ugh.   Please comment and tell me if I’m doing it right (or wrong).

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  1. I’m so glad that I came across your blog. 🙂

  2. Kathy

     /  September 26, 2012

    Just been sneakily reading through your posts – having a PAO with Mr Witt next week after a failed one with a different surgeon on the other hip. Also have to return to Devon afterwards so I was really pleased to hear you found the journey ok! It’s been great to get an insight into the inpatient life at UCH too. So that is my long winded way of saying thank you for sharing your experiences. You sound like you’ve been doing amazingly and I hope you are continuing to recover well.

    • Hi Kathy – great to hear from you! How uncanny to know another Devon-based ‘hip woman’. What part of Devon are you from?
      I wish you all the best for your PAO with Mr Witt. I have heard so many people say great things about him so you are in the best of hands. My advice is to put your trust in the medical care you are receiving and let the first three or so days just wash over you. Just go with it – I promise it does get better. My experience of life as an inpatient at UCLH was really positive. The nurses did a great job and were always very sympathetic and helpful.
      Recovery is still progressing – I really am getting stronger every day. Please keep in touch and let me know how you’re going, and if you want to chat at any time re the PAO just let me know. I will try and find a way to PM you. 🙂

  3. Hey,
    So I can’t find a way to private message you but I have a very very new blog anyway so thought I’d reply to you this way. So sorry I didn’t see your message until now. Thank you for the reply and the support. I’m from Plymouth – I usually live away but my parents are here so I’ve moved back for a few months.

    I’m 11 days post-op now, managed to get out of hospital in 5 without any complications. Had my first physio appointment today – really reluctant to put any weight through my right foot as I walk but both the physio and my mum keep telling me I need to. Finding it scary though! But generally doing ok. Keep meaning to keep a record of things, I’m not as disciplined as you but think I might write a big blog post this afternoon.

    I’ve seen your latest post and I’m so sorry you’ve hurt yourself, I know that must be demoralising. It happens to everyone at some point though, honestly, so please don’t be too upset. You’ll be back to where you were in no time, you sound like you’ve been doing really well.

    I’m now ‘following’ you, it would be great to keep in touch.


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